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Tuesday, September 2, 2008

Strangers and the comfort zone.

Hey amigos it has been a while since I last wrote. I have just been really busy working on the website, which I love doing is so challenging. Currently I am learning loads in terms of being able to build any sort of web application, considering the fact that nowadays we use the web so much, mine is going to be amazing with loads of users and specially be able to meet incredible people and learn more about myself.

Regarding people and social interaction I’ve been having great success. During the race week in Galway, I managed to speak to over 50 different people and all strangers of course and got over 40 different e-mails. I happened to learns loads and hone my approaching skills and one of the big realizations is that there is no such a thing as REJECTION. People in general have a friendly tendency towards other people and the big lesson is that we all share a lot of things in common. Just think of yourself having a good night out and all of a sudden a friendly stranger approaches you with a substantial conversation. The likelihood of you reacting positively is very high indeed.

One of the things that I discovered about myself is that I am able to approach any sorts and groups of people, obviously as a human being I feel the norm of social anxiety but the trick is to overcome it and that is when all the magic happens. I am fascinated by approaching strangers and meeting cool interesting people. One thing that I would like to share is that there are loads of interesting people out there. I can’t miss the opportunity to meet them all. A very interesting thing about all the interactions that I had was that out of all 50 only 1 was initiated by somebody else but me. What does this mean? We hardly ever talk to strangers apart from transactional purposes, and if we do, it could turn into a big challenge making the next step, meaning getting their contact details.

We hardly ever make it to the 12 feet with a stranger unless good skills are applied.
The challenge is reaching a casual distance with strangers.








Talking about the dark side on the other hand is that some people are still wary about NEW people and strangers. That could be a fascinating analysis of why humans instinctively are reluctant to the “new and novel” and prefer the familiar scheme of things, the so called comfort zone. I hate comfort zones. I don’t learn much staying in my comfort zone and familiarity. So if you have any experiences of how have you been BREAKING your comfort zone in the last week or month PLEASE SHARE !!!!!!!!

Anyway I am having loads of fun at the moment and can’t wait to launch my site and meet lots of interesting people.

I completely borderline between disasted zone and adventure zone. Where are you located??












Adrian